10 Ways My Body Has Changed After Having Kids

The best way I can explain the changes to a woman’s body after she has kids is like when you wreck your car. You can put it in the shop and it’ll look normal but it never runs the same again. That’s literally how I would describe my body after pregnancy and birth.

I knew my body would change. I knew things were going to look different but I didn’t know about the internal changes. It’s just so strange to me. My body worked a certain way my whole life and then I got pregnant and things started to change. Now I don’t remember how my body worked before I had kids. It’s really different now so I just know what it does now.

Let’s start with the outside:

1. My tummy. 

So of course my abdominal area was stretched way past it’s normal size. I had a baby in there. Two actually, just not at the same time. Now that my abs have been stretched out a couple of times they’re a little less tight than they used to be. My belly has more give in it now so it sticks out more when I eat too much. There’s extra skin that I don’t think is ever going to go away but whatever. And at the bottom of my stomach is a six inch c-section scar that will always be there.

2. My boobs.

So I breastfed only one of my boys but I did pump for both of them. I was amazed at the fact that my boobs made breast milk. It was actually really cool. I made a lot too, I was a milk making machine. It hurt though, a lot and I had to stop. Of course after all the trauma my boobs went through they are a lot more saggy that they used to be. It’s probably the hardest thing I’ve had to accept about the physical changes to my body. For a long time I felt really unattractive and I didn’t even want my husband to see them or touch them. I worried that he would be disappointed that they were different. He has assured me that he does not feel that way and I’m finally able to accept them for how they are now.

3. My face.

I used to have oily, acne prone skin. Now my skin is so clear it’s a miracle. People have asked me what I did to clear up my skin and I always tell them my secret was having a baby. I don’t if I just had bad skin or if my hormones were just crazy but either way pregnancy sorted it all out. Now I only get break outs around that time of the month or if I’m extremely stressed out.

Now for the inside:

4. My bladder.

Before I had kids I could hold my pee a whole six hour car ride to Texas. Now I literally have to stop every two hours to pee. I used to sleep all night long and not have to wake up to pee. Now I get up at least once in the night, sometimes twice. It doesn’t matter how much liquid I consume I have to pee all the time now. Caffeine really irritates is so I shouldn’t drink it but I do. It’s just so annoying.

5. My Stomach.

Before I had kids I could not eat breakfast. I always woke up with a nervous stomach and couldn’t eat anything for a few hours so I would always skip breakfast. Now I wake up starving. I have to eat breakfast. I also had a lot of acid reflux with both boys and I had to have my gallbladder removed after having Cillian so my stomach is a little sensitive to things that I wasn’t before I had kids.

6. My hips.

Since puberty my right hip has always been a little painful at times. It got worse when I started working in a warehouse in my early twenties but after having kids my right hip is always in a constant state of pain. I didn’t even push my babies out. I don’t think I could have. I went for a walk with my mother in law and the next day I could barely walk. I was limping. Even my pain reliever didn’t work. It makes me feel like an old lady, y’all.

7. My blood flow.

This might sound weird but I feel like my blood flows a lot better now that I’ve had kids. I used to be super cold natured. I was always cold. Now I’m always hot. It’ll be 55 degrees outside and I’ll have the air on in my car. I can’t sleep in long sleeve shirts anymore, which I love to do. As soon as the weather hits 60 degrees I have to wear shorts because I burn up in jeans. I swear menopause is going to kill me.

8. My brain.

This is the big one. I seriously cannot remember anything. It goes in my head and if I don’t write it down it will be lost forever. It’s so frustrating! I will literally forget stuff five minutes after I was told about it. I honestly don’t know how I manage things anymore. I used to be so good at remembering birthdays and plans and names. Now that’s not a thing for me anymore. I’m sorry to those of you that know me personally. I think a bunch of my brain cells left me when I gave birth to my children and I just never got them back.

Now some good things:

9. Physical strength

I know for a fact I am a lot stronger than I used to be. I can feel it. Before I had kids I didn’t even know I was capable of the things I can do. You go through a lot in pregnancy and taking care of kids. I’m not afraid of a challenge, whether physical or not.

10. Self confidence.

When you have kids you start to realize what’s important and what’s not important. I have learned a lot about myself and who I am as a person. I have come to really like who I am and I don’t think I would have gotten to this place if it wasn’t for my children. They have made me a better person. I also have amazing women in my life who have made it possible for me to see that I have great qualities.

So there’s how pregnancy and having babies has changed me and my body. What are some changes you experienced? Are any of yours the same as mine?

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When I was pregnant with Cillian.

I Have My Own Online Store!

It’s finally happened, y’all! I’m a small business owner! I’M A BOSS LADY. 

It all started nine years ago when I was working in a Hobby Lobby store and decided I wanted to try a new hobby. I chose jewelry making. I started with stretch bracelets and necklaces. I tried selling some but it didn’t do very well. I gave some as gifts but that’s as far as they went. Well last year I was thinking of ways I could work from home so that I could stay home with my sons and I remembered I could make jewelry. I started experimenting with new styles and tried my hand at making earrings. I was really impressed with myself and got a new hope that it could really work this time. So I decided to start an online store and here I am!


Check out my Shopify store, Dahlia Lux where you’ll find beautiful, handmade jewelry made by yours truly.


I’ve been working on getting this business going for months and it feels so good to finally have it up and running.


My main styles are very earthy. I love incorporating elements of nature into my jewelry as well as some spiritual aspects.


I got the name of my business from my favorite flower, also lux means light. I also wanted something feminine and uplifting, something that would be easy to remember as well as something a person would feel good about sharing with friends.


The dream of becoming my own boss is slowly coming true, I really hope you can all find something you like and I would so much appreciate it if you would all spread the word. I believe that even international sales are possible! I’m so excited to see where this endeavor takes me and I just want to thank all of you in advance for all the likes, shares, business, and kind words any of you decide to give me.

I’m so excited!!!

5 Things Women Should Be Proud Of

The world has come a long way in defining what is considered beautiful in a woman. It still has a long way to go though. We’re still told constantly that we need to change ourselves to be considered beautiful and it’s just awful. Companies all over the world are using the things that make us self conscious against us to make money and I think it’s wrong. They make us try to reach unrealistic standards and for men to think less of us if we don’t reach those standards. I think as women we need to be more accepting of ourselves and our bodies. We’re all different and our bodies develop differently, we need to embrace what we have and not make others feel bad for being different from us.

1. Body hair

Everyone has body hair. Everyone. As a matter of fact the main thing that separates adult humans from adolescent humans is the amount of hair we have on our bodies. That includes women. When both sexes go through puberty we grow more hair on our legs, we grow hair in our armpits and in our pubic areas. Why is it unacceptable for women to keep their hair but not for men? Why do women have to remove all their hair to make a man attracted to them? They should already be attracted to us, if they’re straight, whether we have hair or not. When you really think about it, it kind of makes you wonder about men who prefer women who don’t have hair in appropriate areas. Children are hairless, and they want their women to be hairless like children? That’s just what I think of when I hear that a man is disgusted by a woman who has body hair.

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2. Stretch marks

I am so happy when I see celebrities taking pictures of themselves, without a filter, that shows off their stretch marks. So many women have stretch marks and they are completely normal. It’s unrealistic to expect women to not have stretch marks, especially if they have children. The stretch marks I have on my stomach, hips, legs, boobs and butt are all from giving life to my beautiful children and I am so proud of my body for being able to do that. Scars, marks, bumps and blemishes are a part of life and it’s not right to make people feel weird about having them.

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3. Sagging breasts

Expecting a woman to have perfect boobs is a major flaw in our society. It causes women to do potentially dangerous things to their body like having surgeries done to make them bigger, firmer, or perkier. This is not even close to realistic. All boobs sag eventually, even fake ones. We all need to embrace boobies for their life giving, natural beauty.

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4. Extra weight

While I believe we should all be healthy I also believe that we can’t all be skinny mini. It’s just not possible, not everyone is built to be thin. And that is okay. Women with extra weight are no less beautiful than women who don’t. There are all kinds of different body types and they’re all beautiful. The pressure to be thin can be dangerous and lead to unhealthy choices so please stop shaming people because they aren’t considered “conventionally” beautiful.

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5. Each other

We all need to stand by our fellow woman. We need to build each other up instead of tearing each other down. We need to be proud when another woman gets a job or when she’s happy in a marriage or when she tries to do the right thing. We don’t need to dwell on the fact that we want that job or that you don’t think she deserves to be married to him or to focus on what she did wrong instead of what she did right. We already have so many things going against us, especially men. We need to stand up for each other, we need to help each other and we need to care for one another.

Many times in life we have people who are trying to make us feel less than amazing because of our appearance, don’t listen to them. You are beautiful and wonderful and smart and amazing. You should be proud of the things you’ve accomplished and the things your body is able to do. Don’t focus on the things you hate about it. Embrace it!


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