The best way I can explain the changes to a woman’s body after she has kids is like when you wreck your car. You can put it in the shop and it’ll look normal but it never runs the same again. That’s literally how I would describe my body after pregnancy and birth.
I knew my body would change. I knew things were going to look different but I didn’t know about the internal changes. It’s just so strange to me. My body worked a certain way my whole life and then I got pregnant and things started to change. Now I don’t remember how my body worked before I had kids. It’s really different now so I just know what it does now.
Let’s start with the outside:
1. My tummy.
So of course my abdominal area was stretched way past it’s normal size. I had a baby in there. Two actually, just not at the same time. Now that my abs have been stretched out a couple of times they’re a little less tight than they used to be. My belly has more give in it now so it sticks out more when I eat too much. There’s extra skin that I don’t think is ever going to go away but whatever. And at the bottom of my stomach is a six inch c-section scar that will always be there.
2. My boobs.
So I breastfed only one of my boys but I did pump for both of them. I was amazed at the fact that my boobs made breast milk. It was actually really cool. I made a lot too, I was a milk making machine. It hurt though, a lot and I had to stop. Of course after all the trauma my boobs went through they are a lot more saggy that they used to be. It’s probably the hardest thing I’ve had to accept about the physical changes to my body. For a long time I felt really unattractive and I didn’t even want my husband to see them or touch them. I worried that he would be disappointed that they were different. He has assured me that he does not feel that way and I’m finally able to accept them for how they are now.
3. My face.
I used to have oily, acne prone skin. Now my skin is so clear it’s a miracle. People have asked me what I did to clear up my skin and I always tell them my secret was having a baby. I don’t if I just had bad skin or if my hormones were just crazy but either way pregnancy sorted it all out. Now I only get break outs around that time of the month or if I’m extremely stressed out.
Now for the inside:
4. My bladder.
Before I had kids I could hold my pee a whole six hour car ride to Texas. Now I literally have to stop every two hours to pee. I used to sleep all night long and not have to wake up to pee. Now I get up at least once in the night, sometimes twice. It doesn’t matter how much liquid I consume I have to pee all the time now. Caffeine really irritates is so I shouldn’t drink it but I do. It’s just so annoying.
5. My Stomach.
Before I had kids I could not eat breakfast. I always woke up with a nervous stomach and couldn’t eat anything for a few hours so I would always skip breakfast. Now I wake up starving. I have to eat breakfast. I also had a lot of acid reflux with both boys and I had to have my gallbladder removed after having Cillian so my stomach is a little sensitive to things that I wasn’t before I had kids.
6. My hips.
Since puberty my right hip has always been a little painful at times. It got worse when I started working in a warehouse in my early twenties but after having kids my right hip is always in a constant state of pain. I didn’t even push my babies out. I don’t think I could have. I went for a walk with my mother in law and the next day I could barely walk. I was limping. Even my pain reliever didn’t work. It makes me feel like an old lady, y’all.
7. My blood flow.
This might sound weird but I feel like my blood flows a lot better now that I’ve had kids. I used to be super cold natured. I was always cold. Now I’m always hot. It’ll be 55 degrees outside and I’ll have the air on in my car. I can’t sleep in long sleeve shirts anymore, which I love to do. As soon as the weather hits 60 degrees I have to wear shorts because I burn up in jeans. I swear menopause is going to kill me.
8. My brain.
This is the big one. I seriously cannot remember anything. It goes in my head and if I don’t write it down it will be lost forever. It’s so frustrating! I will literally forget stuff five minutes after I was told about it. I honestly don’t know how I manage things anymore. I used to be so good at remembering birthdays and plans and names. Now that’s not a thing for me anymore. I’m sorry to those of you that know me personally. I think a bunch of my brain cells left me when I gave birth to my children and I just never got them back.
Now some good things:
9. Physical strength
I know for a fact I am a lot stronger than I used to be. I can feel it. Before I had kids I didn’t even know I was capable of the things I can do. You go through a lot in pregnancy and taking care of kids. I’m not afraid of a challenge, whether physical or not.
10. Self confidence.
When you have kids you start to realize what’s important and what’s not important. I have learned a lot about myself and who I am as a person. I have come to really like who I am and I don’t think I would have gotten to this place if it wasn’t for my children. They have made me a better person. I also have amazing women in my life who have made it possible for me to see that I have great qualities.
So there’s how pregnancy and having babies has changed me and my body. What are some changes you experienced? Are any of yours the same as mine?
When I was pregnant with Cillian.