The world has come a long way in defining what is considered beautiful in a woman. It still has a long way to go though. We’re still told constantly that we need to change ourselves to be considered beautiful and it’s just awful. Companies all over the world are using the things that make us self conscious against us to make money and I think it’s wrong. They make us try to reach unrealistic standards and for men to think less of us if we don’t reach those standards. I think as women we need to be more accepting of ourselves and our bodies. We’re all different and our bodies develop differently, we need to embrace what we have and not make others feel bad for being different from us.
1. Body hair
Everyone has body hair. Everyone. As a matter of fact the main thing that separates adult humans from adolescent humans is the amount of hair we have on our bodies. That includes women. When both sexes go through puberty we grow more hair on our legs, we grow hair in our armpits and in our pubic areas. Why is it unacceptable for women to keep their hair but not for men? Why do women have to remove all their hair to make a man attracted to them? They should already be attracted to us, if they’re straight, whether we have hair or not. When you really think about it, it kind of makes you wonder about men who prefer women who don’t have hair in appropriate areas. Children are hairless, and they want their women to be hairless like children? That’s just what I think of when I hear that a man is disgusted by a woman who has body hair.
2. Stretch marks
I am so happy when I see celebrities taking pictures of themselves, without a filter, that shows off their stretch marks. So many women have stretch marks and they are completely normal. It’s unrealistic to expect women to not have stretch marks, especially if they have children. The stretch marks I have on my stomach, hips, legs, boobs and butt are all from giving life to my beautiful children and I am so proud of my body for being able to do that. Scars, marks, bumps and blemishes are a part of life and it’s not right to make people feel weird about having them.
3. Sagging breasts
Expecting a woman to have perfect boobs is a major flaw in our society. It causes women to do potentially dangerous things to their body like having surgeries done to make them bigger, firmer, or perkier. This is not even close to realistic. All boobs sag eventually, even fake ones. We all need to embrace boobies for their life giving, natural beauty.
4. Extra weight
While I believe we should all be healthy I also believe that we can’t all be skinny mini. It’s just not possible, not everyone is built to be thin. And that is okay. Women with extra weight are no less beautiful than women who don’t. There are all kinds of different body types and they’re all beautiful. The pressure to be thin can be dangerous and lead to unhealthy choices so please stop shaming people because they aren’t considered “conventionally” beautiful.
5. Each other
We all need to stand by our fellow woman. We need to build each other up instead of tearing each other down. We need to be proud when another woman gets a job or when she’s happy in a marriage or when she tries to do the right thing. We don’t need to dwell on the fact that we want that job or that you don’t think she deserves to be married to him or to focus on what she did wrong instead of what she did right. We already have so many things going against us, especially men. We need to stand up for each other, we need to help each other and we need to care for one another.
Many times in life we have people who are trying to make us feel less than amazing because of our appearance, don’t listen to them. You are beautiful and wonderful and smart and amazing. You should be proud of the things you’ve accomplished and the things your body is able to do. Don’t focus on the things you hate about it. Embrace it!
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